Dealing with offenses and the offender.

Updated: Dec 30, 2020

Offenses continue to wreck havoc in our world today. Jesus Christ warned us about offenses. As noted in Matthew 18:7, offenses are inevitable. But, do not be the cause for offenses. The wounds inflicted by offenses can only be completely healed by the Lord. However, we also have the responsibility to allow our hearts to be saturated with love as love bears all things, endures all things, suffers long, and love is not provoked according to 1st Corinthians 13:4-8. The ability to love cause you to overcome the hurt, pain, anger, unforgiveness, and bitterness which are byproducts of offenses. You may click here to read the blog on love.

Please remember offenses toward God are not forgiven until a decision to come to faith in Christ, Colossians 1:20-21. That is because Jesus Christ reconciled us to God through death,our Lord Jesus Christ died for our offenses toward God. God is love and love does not rejoice in iniquity. Hence, God demonstrated His own love toward us by sending His son to die, shed his blood, and resurrected from the dead, so our offenses could be forgiven only if we believe, repent, confess our sins, and live in obedience to God.

Jesus demonstrated how men ought to live with each other without causing offense. For example when the temple tax collectors queried Peter about tax payment, Jesus Christ, advised Peter to pay taxes so they would not offend the tax collectors (Matthew 17:24-27). According to Mark 6:3, when Jesus' own countrymen were offended at Him because of His teaching, the wisdom given to Him, and the mighty works performed by His hands, Jesus politely excused Himself from among them. What a peaceful Man! He never imposed His will on anyone. When Jesus Christ sent His disciples out, He advised them to depart from a house that would not receive or hear them (Luke 9:5, Mark 6: 11).

Nevertheless, although His ministry offended the Pharisees and Sadducees, and they sought to kill Him because of envy, He focused on the will of the His Father, our Father in heaven. He rode boldly into Jerusalem, boldly drove out those who had turned His Father’s house into a den of thieves rather than the house of prayer, and refuted them without fail though the religious were offended.

David was a man after God’s own heart who boldly dealt with offense against the nation of Israel. He did not spare Goliath but destroyed and cut of his head. Yet, David spared Saul twice when he could have killed him. In 1st Samuel 25:2-39, David by the counsel of a wise woman, spared Nabal who refused to show kindness to David. However, Nabal later died for his foolishness. David was able to distinguish between an uncircumcised (unbeliever) versus a circumcised (believer) who caused an 0ffense. He could differentiate between offense toward God and offense toward man. This calls for wisdom, As a christian, you ought to discern how to accurately respond to offenses among fellow christians. Paul also wrote about this in 1st Corinthians 6:1-9. Here are additional passages Matthew 18:15-17 and Colossians 3:13.

My friends, we must know the counsel of God on every matter. God has a plan for every situation. Child of God, stop the assumptions and listen carefully for the appropriate action God wants you to take when an offense knocks at the door of your heart. Do not be deceived by your own knowledge. The Holy Spirit is available to help. The Holy Spirit is such a good friend, he would warn you as a child of God before an offense lands in your house. He will also let you know whether to avoid, confront and or attack. The strategy belongs to the Lord, consult Him. It is too costly to ignore His voice. Trust and obey His voice and you would reign over offenses.

Current offenses in our culture include abortion, gay marriage/homosexuality, adultery and idolatry. Christians are being taught to tolerate and vote in favor of these things in the name of love. Correct, we are called to love all men because we are created in the image and likeness of God. Agreed, we must love human beings. But we are to hate evil as God hates it. We are not called to love evil spirits. Please distinguish between humans and spirits. Satan knows the word of God and will twist the word to suit His agenda. May the Lord bless our understanding! Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever. These are offensive to the Lord! Child of God, you cannot love more than God. He hates these things and if indeed, His spirit is in you, you will hate it too and most importantly show your displeasure, and not tolerate it. Christians are taught to be quiet about these things. Remember, cowards will not inherit the kingdom of God (Revelation 21:8). Cowardice is an offense to God. Do not be overcome by evil, God is not weak, rise up in the power of God, and exercise your authority in Christ over what offends Him to honor His name.

Today if you hear his voice, do not harden your heart. Do not be offended, offenses must come. Be consoled, the Lord is just. Evil should not be tolerated among us. Be victorious over offenses by the power of God. Do not be confused, God has given you the Spirit of a sound mind to know how to deal with offenders according to the will of God. Let the peace of God reign in every heart.

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